We all have certain myths that we just love to believe. From the guilty pleasure of believing in the Hollywood fairy tale, to still wondering if there is a pot of gold at the end of that rainbow, myths abound in our society. Unfortunately, myths also abound in our marriages. This series of posts will explore 5 of the common myths found in our marriages.
Marriage Myth #1: Love is all you need.
One of the most commonly held myths about marriage, that all we need for a happy and healthy marriage is love, love, love. (Sorry The Beatles) If only it could be that simple! We deeply want to believe this truth, that our deep and unending love for one another will be the energy source that carries us through life to marital bliss. The danger of this myth comes when your emotional love begins to falter. If you have been married for any length of time, you can attest to the fact that the emotional experience of your relationship has changed and possibly diminished over time. Welcome to real life, this is natural and normal! However, if you put all of your trust in the emotional experience of love to support your relationship, than if you don’t feel the love anymore the marriage must be doomed, right? This is not the case at all!
Every marriage and relationship will go through ups and downs and experience periods of time in which the feeling of love is diminished. While this is a warning sign, it is by no means an “abandon ship”. Love within a marriage is a commitment, it is a conscious choice to love your partner even when you don’t feel like loving them. It also takes conscious effort to strengthen and develop your feelings of love and intimacy to sustain your marriage. Emotions follow actions, so start taking action to build your love! It takes much more than the mushy stuff of Hollywood chic-flicks to sustain a marriage.
Have you bought into this myth in the past? Tell us about your experience in the comments below, feel free to include any tips for other couples on how to keep the romance alive in their relationship.