This COVID-19 pandemic has been hard. Really hard. It’s upended our norms; challenged our sense of security; and some days, even our sanity. We find ourselves in a period of uncertainty, living day-to-day with as much integrity and self-respect as we can muster. My humble suggestion to all of us going through this:
With yourself and with others around you; Be safe, Be compassionate, Be intentional.
Take your physical health seriously. Eat well, sleep well, get exercise, be mindful of the guidance of health experts. Fear is natural, it gives us pause to consider our safety. Let it motivate you, not paralyze you.
Have patience and grace with yourself and others during this time. We are all struggling. Let me say that again. We are ALL struggling. This is hard. You are doing the best you can do. You have limits. So do your kids, partners, co-workers, and that guy in line behind you that won’t keep 6’ away. Have compassion on yourself and others when those limits have been reached.
Make time for yourself and be intentional with it. Identify your top 2-3 activities that bring you joy and a sense of fulfillment. Schedule time in your day for those activities. Do the same for your time with a partner, housemate, or children. Don’t mistake time around the people you love for time with them. Also, it’s ok to have both!
Hang in there, and remember, we are all in this together. If you feel like you’re struggling, reach out. Call a friend, text a family member, video chat with colleagues. And if you think you would benefit talking to a professional, we are here to help.
Shane Landherr, LMFT
Owner of Centre Marriage and Relational Therapy